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| Carl |
 Posted: Tue Apr 29, 2008 12:00 am |
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In my youth, I was indeed a misfit who didn't fit in with the "in crowd" and
wasn't cool for various reasons. I was also a unique misfit because not only
was I considered a nerd due to my constant reading and good grades but I was
also a jock at the same time playing football, basketball and baseball while
in my spare time, I worked at power-lifting. Growing up in a very small town
and not fitting in made me quite isolated and I was rejected a lot. That
left a lot of emotional scarring that I am still dealing with today.
However, thanks to God, it's getting better each and every day. I admit that
sometimes I still exhibit a poor self-image and get the blues over it.
Usually in those instances, I go immediately to prayer for guidance and
support. I read the following advice from Dr. Charles Stanley over this and
was pleasantly surprised that I was already doing much of what he suggests
and I also reaffirmed some relational points which are also raised in the
article. I hope that this might help you as well.
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May God bless,
Carl
my website -- http://www.nettally.com/saints/
my blog -- http://www.anniemayhem.com/cgi-bin/wordpress/
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Responding To Rejection
by Charles F. Stanley
How are you to respond when you experience times of rejection? Should you
curl up in a dark corner and engage in self-pity? Will you withdraw from
life completely and disown the people who love and accept you? No!
You are to do three specific things when you feel an intense need to belong.
1. Believe what God says about you.
Through the years, I have had a number of divorced or widowed people say to
me, "I feel like a nobody." My response to them is, "That's not what God
says about you."
God says you are a somebody. You are so special and valuable to Him that He
sent His Son to die for your sins, and He made it possible for the Holy
Spirit to come and dwell within you. He did that to remind you on a daily
basis that you are valuable beyond measure in His eyes.
"But I feel so all alone in the world," someone might say.
You aren't alone, because God is with you. He has promised to stay right by
your side, regardless of what happens to you. Even if everybody you know has
rejected you, God will not leave you. Be assured that you are forgiven and a
full-fledged member of God's family. In Christ, we are His children, never
to be denied, rejected, or turned away from His presence.
2. Seek God's acceptance first.
Divorce is devastating because it destroys a person's sense of belonging. It
creates an even greater need to belong, a need that isn't felt as keenly or
as deeply when a person is happily married.
A woman whose husband had recently divorced her confessed to me, "I don't
feel as if I belong anyplace anymore. My life has been ripped apart. What
can I do?"
"Go to Christ," I said. "Trust the Lord to be the One who provides for you.
He alone can give you identity and supply comfort in your loneliness. Do
everything obediently in service to Him, trusting Him to direct your path.
Know that He will shelter you from evil, uphold you, and provide daily
guidance. Depend on Him with your entire being, and surrender completely to
His will."
Is God's acceptance of you more important than acceptance by other people?
You have been given the ability and prerogative to ignore God, continue on
your own way, and rebel against His desire enjoy a growing relationship with
you. But why not spend time in His Word to see the deep, unconditional love
He has for you? Why not give in and yield to His compassionate, fatherly
embrace?
3. Recognize that God will never reject you.
Perhaps you are afraid that you might one day lose God's acceptance and
love. Nothing, my friend-absolutely nothing-can destroy your standing in
Christ or diminish the love He extends to you. Not now, not ever.
When my grandson was very young, the first thing he would do when he came to
my house was demand to sit on my lap. He had a sense-rightly so-that there
was no other person I would rather have been with in that moment.
Friend, that's the way God feels about you and me. He delights in being with
us. He holds us tenderly. And there is no other person in the world He would
rather be with. The amazing truth about our infinite God is that He is
capable of expressing to us all His love and attention. In our finite minds,
we can not grasp that. But in God's great and infinite love, He can
completely meet my need for belonging, just as surely as He can fully meet
yours.
When you feel as if you don't belong, come to God with a desire to sit for a
while in His presence. Come with a willingness to be held, like a child, in
His everlasting arms. Allow yourself to relax. You are 100 percent welcome
there. The Father longs for you to be with Him. |
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| SheBlewHimDidYouBlowHim |
| Posted: Tue Apr 29, 2008 7:35 am |
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"Carl" <saints@nettally.com> wrote in message
news:fv6a10$lq6$1@news.utelfla.com...
Quote: In my youth, I was indeed a misfit who didn't fit in with the "in crowd"
and wasn't cool for various reasons. I was also a unique misfit because
not only was I considered a nerd due to my constant reading and good
grades but I was also a jock at the same time playing football, basketball
and baseball while in my spare time, I worked at power-lifting. Growing up
in a very small town and not fitting in made me quite isolated and I was
rejected a lot. That left a lot of emotional scarring that I am still
dealing with today. However, thanks to God, it's getting better each and
every day.
WHY DID THE ALL-POWERFUL SHITHEAD christian god allow you to experience
emotional scarring, rejection, and feel quite isolated?
your god is an ASSHOLE and your god would rather watch people suffer than
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| Carl |
| Posted: Tue Apr 29, 2008 11:34 am |
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Ps 139
1 To the chief Musician, A Psalm of David.
O Lord, thou hast searched me, and known me.
2 Thou knowest my downsitting and mine uprising, thou understandest my
thought afar off.
3 Thou compassest my path and my lying down, and art acquainted with all my
ways.
4 For there is not a word in my tongue, but, lo, O Lord, thou knowest it
altogether.
5 Thou hast beset me behind and before, and laid thine hand upon me.
6 Such knowledge is too wonderful for me; it is high, I cannot attain unto
it.
7 Whither shall I go from thy spirit? or whither shall I flee from thy
presence?
8 If I ascend up into heaven, thou art there: if I make my bed in hell,
behold, thou art there.
9 If I take the wings of the morning, and dwell in the uttermost parts of
the sea;
10 Even there shall thy hand lead me, and thy right hand shall hold me.
11 If I say, Surely the darkness shall cover me; even the night shall be
light about me.
12 Yea, the darkness hideth not from thee; but the night shineth as the day:
the darkness and the light are both alike to thee.
13 For thou hast possessed my reins: thou hast covered me in my mother's
womb.
14 I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous
are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.
15 My substance was not hid from thee, when I was made in secret, and
curiously wrought in the lowest parts of the earth.
16 Thine eyes did see my substance, yet being unperfect; and in thy book all
my members were written, which in continuance were fashioned, when as yet
there was none of them.
17 How precious also are thy thoughts unto me, O God! how great is the sum
of them!
18 If I should count them, they are more in number than the sand: when I
awake, I am still with thee.
19 Surely thou wilt slay the wicked, O God: depart from me therefore, ye
bloody men.
20 For they speak against thee wickedly, and thine enemies take thy name in
vain.
21 Do not I hate them, O Lord, that hate thee? and am not I grieved with
those that rise up against thee?
22 I hate them with perfect hatred: I count them mine enemies.
23 Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and know my thoughts:
24 And see if there be any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way
everlasting.
May God bless,
Carl
my website -- http://www.nettally.com/saints/
my blog -- http://www.anniemayhem.com/cgi-bin/wordpress/ |
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| SheBlewHimDidYouBlowHim |
| Posted: Wed Apr 30, 2008 5:24 pm |
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the christian god loves sitting on his FAT, LAZY ASS, LAUGHING HIS SICK,
SADISTIC ASS OFF AS HE WATCHES PEOPLE SUFFER . |
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| Carl |
| Posted: Wed Apr 30, 2008 11:21 pm |
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2 Cor 6:14-18
14 Do not be yoked together with unbelievers . For what do righteousness and
wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?
15 What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? What does a believer
have in common with an unbeliever? 16 What agreement is there between the
temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has
said: "I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God,
and they will be my people."
17 "Therefore come out from them
and be separate,
says the Lord.
Touch no unclean thing,
and I will receive you."
18 "I will be a Father to you,
and you will be my sons and daughters,
says the Lord Almighty."
May God bless,
Carl
my website -- http://www.nettally.com/saints/
my blog -- http://www.anniemayhem.com/cgi-bin/wordpress/ |
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