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PUBLIC FIGHTING NOT MODEL BEHAVIOR
By DR. KEITH ABLOW
http://snipurl.com/3g5iy [www_nypost_com]
What’s going on in the mind of the Uptown Girl?
Posted: 4:09 am July 8, 2008
IN her (very) public divorce trial, Christie Brinkley has maintained
that she's the long-suffering victim of Peter Cook, her husband of 10
years. Cook, after all, had sex with his assistant and spent thousands
of dollars on Internet porn. He's clearly no model for self-control.
Brinkley opted to keep the divorce trial open to the public rather than
seal it, saying she wanted to let the truth be known.
This, despite the fact that son Jack, 12, and daughter Sailor, 9, would
inevitably be exposed to some of the coverage - whether now or in the
future.
So what's going on in Christie's mind - and what's her real motivation
for airing all the sordid details of a marriage gone wrong? Here are
three psychological facts:
1. Brinkley married a man who disappointed her, despite having adopted
her son from her third marriage. But four broken marriages means she's a
chronic co-conspirator in her own pain, not purely a victim. The key to
personal growth will be to find out exactly how and why. No amount of
public airing of the facts will provide the private insight that can
benefit her and her children in the future.
2. The public humiliation of a man with whom you have had a child
amounts to a kind of castration. And while her shock and anger are
completely justified, Brinkley's unchecked desire for vengeance hints at
a reservoir of emotion that was tapped, but not invented, by this
trauma. This can't have been helpful in maintaining a loving
relationship.
3. Brinkley's decision to keep the divorce trial public has as much
potential to hurt her children as Cook's affair and porn habit. A boy of
12 and a girl of 9 have been deprived of seeing their parents control
their own emotions in order to preserve their children's best interests.
This would have been a deeply sustaining experience for the kids.
That's the truth, all of which can be summed up by an insight a friend
of mine shared with me before his fifth wedding.
"The first four," he says, "you'd swear it's them" - it's always someone
else's fault - until finally you have to start accepting some of the
blame for yourself.
Contact Dr. Keith at kablow at (no spam) keithablow.com |
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